UNDERSTANDING PAIN
(The original essay to myself as a Journal entry)
-To understand pain is to have a fuller appreciation of its purpose
-To feel pain is not to understand pain
-To feel pain is only to know about pain
-What is important in understanding pain is what it accomplishes
-Ache, agony, discomfort, misery, torment, torture, suffering all describe what pain can be
-Pain can be defined as a disturbing sensation from which nature revolts
-Pain is the sacrifice or price we pay for perfection, it’s not free
-To reach newer and higher levels of perfection, we must be willing to pay the price; sometimes that price is enduring more suffering, more agony, more pain
-No one can force us into this, we must want to
-We should not attempt to avoid pain, pain is our friend not our enemy
-To consciously avoid pain is to deprive oneself of a deeper and higher understanding of pain
-Realizing that we can reach new heights in perfection is what will give us ecstasy in the midst of our agony, gladness in the midst of misery and suffering
-You can feel good about feeling bad
-Pain that is not the injurious type; the burn in the muscles, the misery, the ache in our souls is the type of pain that is a friend to us
-So if the body is racked with this type of pain, be happy, you are on the right track
-To go beyond mediocrity, to depart from what is average, to be better
-The higher the accomplishment, the greater the sacrifice
-Accept this and pain during this time will take on a new and different meaning
-The toil will be rewarded by the results it produces
-Pain is a friend, his company to be expected and welcomed if we are to press into the beyond
-To go where no one else has ever gone, to accomplish what no one else has ever accomplished is to sacrifice more than anyone else has ever sacrificed
-To understand pain is to understand discipline, to understand discipline is to understand pain
-Are you willing to hurt? You must if you are to achieve
-If it was easy, then anyone could do it, and it would have little value, if any
-It takes no effort to be ordinary
-This is a sport of discipline, and pain is part of that discipline
The Interpretation of the Pain Essay
By Dr. Carlos Dejesus 1984
In my early writings, I shared the essay “Understanding Pain” with very few, and even that small number did not completely understand what I was saying because I wrote it to myself, and I fully understood what I was paraphrasing.
This is an area where there has been the most amount of confusion, so for this book I will interpret each line of thought under the heading “Understanding Pain”.
To understand pain is to have a fuller appreciation of its purpose.
To know that we sometimes will experience discomfort in the pursuit of excellence is to be prepared to do whatever it takes to accomplish a goal or task, even if it means that part of the process is to accept the muscular discomfort that comes along with the type of training that produces these kinds of results.
To feel pain is not understanding pain.
To experience discomfort does not necessarily ensure that it is understood what this process is accomplishing.
To feel pain is only to know about pain.
Experiencing pain to some is merely to experience some type of discomfort. It does not ensure that an individual is deliberately allowing this process to bring about the desired results, which is what happens, sometimes only when we are willing to experience discomfort.
What is important in understanding pain is to know what is being accomplished.
Without knowing what discomfort will accomplish, we have no reason to want to endure it. Why are we willing to suffer? Why should we suffer? What’s the purpose?
Ache, agony, discomfort, misery, torment, torture, suffering, all describes what pain can be.
Very early in the essay I offer definable terms for what pain can represent, as a reminder to myself as I would read the things I wrote to myself- and now for others who might read my thoughts.
Pain can be defined as a disturbing sensation from which nature revolts.
Again, I am reminding myself as I dive headlong into severe competition training that what I am experiencing and feeling should be “normal” for me and I am reminding myself that I should fully embrace the process of getting there, and that this is what it takes.
Pain is the sacrifice that we pay for *perfection. It’s not free.
Underscoring the above thought, I have already come to realize and accept that there is a price to pay for what I am seeking and striving for. I know that it won’t come easy so I brace myself through how I speak into my own thinking. (*Personal best)
To reach newer and higher levels of perfection, we must be willing to pay the price; sometimes that price is enduring more suffering, more agony, more pain.
At this point I have already made a commitment to my goal, the question now would be, “What’s it going to take to get there?” “What do I have to do?”, There is no turning back now, turning back is not an option anymore at this point.
No one can force us into this, we must want to.
These choices are personal, this commitment is personal, this dedication is personal, I have to want this for all the right reasons or at some point I will give up, I will quit, I will not complete the journey. No one can make me do this, and once I am committed, no one should be able to keep me from it.
We should not attempt to avoid pain, pain is our friend not our enemy.
At this point I am not trying to convince myself that the acceptance of discomfort is important, I am now attempting to construct a philosophy based on the premise that hard, honest work yields results, “How do I make this easier to understand?” I asked myself.
To consciously avoid pain is to deprive oneself of a deeper and higher understanding of pain.
Bear in mind that I am writing to myself. Here I am affirming that to shrink away from what it takes to complete the journey will only end up in failure. This type of failure is twofold. First, I would not have finished the course. Second, the effort that was applied up to this point would fall short of success even though I would have put forth more effort than the “average” person usually puts forth for any endeavor. I was making myself accountable because there was no one else that I would allow to make me do this.
Realizing that we can reach new heights in perfection is what will give us ecstasy in the midst of our agony, gladness in the midst of misery and suffering.
The present discomfort is made bearable by what the future can bring. I am projecting here and verbalizing that even though at the present it’s tough, this process can only end with success. I am not promising myself that I will win the World Championships, I am promising myself that at the very least I will have accomplished a personal best, and it’s possible that this personal best could result in a victory. But before I can have victory, I must be willing to fight and complete the battle, this is the process of achievement, my willingness to give whatever it takes, and not give up. So I am telling myself to take heart and complete the course, and not to let discomfort become a sidetrack.
You can feel good about feeling bad.
In spite of how things are now, if you look to the possibilities of the future, and the possible gains, this won’t feel nearly as bad. Compare the possibilities of the future to the discomfort of the present and the present will be pale in comparison.
Pain that is not the injurious type, the burn in the muscles, the misery, the ache in our souls is the type of pain that is a friend to us.
Again I define the type of “pain” that I am referring to. I never expected anyone to inflict discomfort on themselves for the sole purpose of experiencing pain. Pain or an acceptable level of muscular discomfort seems to be an essential component in the process of personal perfection.
So if the body is racked with this type of pain, be happy, you are on the right track.
Another reminder of what this commitment requires, an encouragement to stay on track so that, like a sure arrow, I will hit my target.
To go beyond mediocrity, to depart from what is average, to be better.
A statement of my goals, and a reminder to myself of where I came from to where I want to go, and again- what it’s going to take to get there- I must do my part.
The higher the accomplishment, the greater the sacrifice.
Another reminder of the effort that is required and an encouragement to gladly pay the price. At this point there should no longer be a struggle, only an acceptance of what is required and the encouragement to follow though.
Accept this and pain during this time will take on a new and different meaning.
A more complete acceptance of the process that is in progress. More bricks in the structure of this philosophy. Discomfort will have and serve its purpose, so I am neither confused about it nor will I attempt to avoid it.
The toil will be rewarded by the results it produces.
Telling myself to take full responsibility for my actions. And that the results I get are in direct proportion to my efforts. (Or as Daryl Scott would say, “The harder I work, the luckier I get!”).
Pain is a friend, his company to be expected and welcomed if we are to press into the beyond.
Reaffirming the acceptance. No longer offering an explanation (or an excuse) for its presence or existence it has now come to the place where I am expecting it or looking for it, so as to make sure I am on the right track, or in the right place. A shift from explaining and finding ways to accept this reality, to using it as a barometer or as a measurement of whether or not I am on target.
To go where no one else has ever gone, to accomplish what no one else has ever accomplished- is to sacrifice more than anyone else has ever sacrificed.
Obviously (to me) I could only be referring to myself when I use the term “no one” or “anyone”. I am confirming to myself that to accomplish something I have never done before will require that I do things differently than I ever have before. Having never done it, I still somehow knew that this is what needed to be done. So I was attempting to prepare myself to accept new and different ways of doing things so that I could succeed. I was very aware that I didn’t know everything, and at this point I became willing to abandon all that I thought I knew if it meant that I could learn more especially if that translated into success (I only knew what I knew, could there be more? of course, but I wasn’t sure where or who the information would come from so I decided to stay open and teachable as possible. I only knew where I wanted to go, I wasn’t sure how to get there but I was willing to do whatever it took).
To understand pain is to understand discipline, to understand discipline is to understand pain.
I knew that a philosophy that has no structure has no direction. To me discipline is action or training that corrects molds or perfects. Factored in that plan of action is the commitment to getting the results, and the willingness to pay the price in full. Paying the price in full is to accept the process required, did I say accept? No rather embrace the process and make it a part of my life, hold it close to me and understand its nature, rather than avoid and shrink from it.
Are you willing to hurt, you must if you are to achieve.
Further confirmation of what I now embrace, while reminding myself of the accountability and responsibility required.
If it was easy, then anyone could do it, and it would have little value- if any.
I offer no apology that I motivate myself with an up-in-your face (in this case my face) type reality check. I am prepared to do something that is not easy. It won’t be easy, it will just be possible, so get off your butt and on your feet and do something about your success today, because if you don’t no one else will, in the absence of a coach or a trainer, this is how I spoke to myself, kept myself motivated and on target.
It takes no effort to be ordinary.
Again, the in-your-face approach that works so well for me, as well as a stern warning and reminder that I am responsible for my success through my actions and thoughts.
This is a sport of discipline, and pain is part of that discipline.
In other words, you don’t have to like it, just do it—get over it, this is how you get what you want, it’s not easy, it’s not pleasant, So what! This isn’t for everyone, but if you want it this is what you will have to do to get it. Now, do you still want it? Well then, why are you still sitting on your butt? Go out there and create your own reality. That’s how I spoke to myself.
This concludes my interpretation of this essay. I hope that the explanation has offered some clarity, because just reading the essay the way it was originally written (to myself) with only the bold words I am sure it would seem contradictory and self destructive. At the time that I wrote this essay I was looking for a way to motivate myself, as I never really had a personal coach so I decided to let all the positive influences in my experience base to teach me.
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