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How Forgiveness Works Forgivness is important because unforgiveness imprisons the person who holds it and affects them emotionally, physically, as well as spiritually. It’s important to think about how we get to the state of UNforgiveness in the first place. Usually what happens is that someone does or says something that hurts us, injures us, [...]

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The Process of Resolution A Current Situation It all starts out with realizing that there is a present situation that’s causing us grief of some sort, or trouble. Either we don’t like how we felt in a situation, or we don’t like how we responded. And so we realize that we want help! The process [...]

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Feelings and Emotions Part 3 Correctly Interpreting feelings and emotions is the key to solving the mystery. The role of emotions is a very good one; critical in fact. They provide a big service for us if we can see them for what they really are. They are front line messengers that are in touch [...]

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Feelings And Emotions Part 2 Emotions Give Us Clues.  What does that look like? A clue is evidence, or a trace, or a fact or object that helps solve a mystery. Are the purposes of emotions a mystery? I think they have been a mystery for a long time. One of the proofs of that [...]

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Feelings And Emotions   They Are There For A Reason  You are driving to work one morning and you hear an unfamiliar sound coming from the front of your car. You are not a trained mechanic so you really don’t know what to think, but the sound turns into a noise and the noise isn’t [...]

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Vows, Conclusions, and Lessons  One reader asks, “What are these issues?” “How did they come to be?” and “How are they resolved?”  In the last post I mentioned that abuse was one way we come to have Unresolved Issues. There are other ways we accumulate Unresolved Issues and in this post I want to address [...]

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 Unresolved Issues Unresolved Issues are just that, issues in our lives that have not been resolved. As I have already stated we usually file the memory of these events somewhere away from our conscious minds because they are almost always painful. And since normally we don’t know how to process through our issues, we usually [...]

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You Might Have Unfinished Business If.. This post continues to answer my friend Dougal’s question dated 1/20/2009 about how can we know if we have UB. Borrowing the format from Jeff Foxworthy’s “You Might Be A Redneck If..” over the past two years my wife Sue and I have compiled a list of what ifs [...]

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Opportunity Knocks   In my last post I addressed something that is common to most of us although we don’t always realize it. And that is the reality that almost all of us, to a greater or lesser degree have Unfinished Business. My friend Dougal asks the question:   “Carlos, a fantastic perspective and one [...]

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Unfinished Business  I ended the last post by saying if our actions got us where we are, then by our actions we can get out of where we are in terms of our personal fitness. So how do we do that and where do we begin? First, since most of what we are doing from [...]